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Child birthing women need Compassion

Ertuğrul Season 3.... an episode that shows the birth difficulties of a mother (Halime giving birth to her #2nd child). I was surprised to see that where the women of the house and the midwives were helping the child birthing mother in privacy. The Husband and other men of her family were showing support outside the room, praying for her ease. The husband (Ertuğrul) would go inside the room asking for permission at the door to hold the hand of his wife, to kiss her forehead infront of the other women, making dua and showing support. The expression on his face was I feel your pain. He then leaves his wife for a war to defeat the enemies. The episode beautifully shows the struggle of believing men and women. If men have various roles, women on the other hand have a very difficult role of giving birth to their children...

What is that we learn from the islamic tradition depicted in this play:
  • ◇ The whole family is to show support to a woman who is giving birth; the women helping her including the midwives, the husband and other men of her family. The midwives unlike our gynecologists are not screaming at her or throwing trantrums🙄. The other men and women of the family are not telling the husband to leave as its a womans job and he is not needed, he might as well step out for a smoke or chai at the cafeteria and he will be informed when all is over.
  • ◇She is not made fun of by any one in the family by hurtful words like "pehla bacha thori hai tumhara", "kisney kaha tha bacha paida karo, ab bhoog tou" or the favorite off all that is often said in the name of shame "everyone can hear you scream so disgraceful".Child birthing is a natural phenomena; there is no shame in it, the pain a woman faces during child birth is as normal and natural as any other pain that the human body feels. There should be no shaming for pain. 
  • ◇Another thing worth noticing in the play is that nobody is considering the child bearing mother as dumb and worthless. No one is making fun of her by saying "bus sirf bachaye paida keye tum ney aur kuch nahi kiya". Every time a woman announces her pregnancy it is celebrated and she is showered with duas and love.



How beautifully the writer has #cherished the gift of motherhood and the reaction of the people around the child birthing woman, #praying for her, #respecting her pain and struggle by comforting her with #affection and #support.
I know many must be thinking its just a play. Indeed it is, yet i admire the thought behind the way it is written. Where writing is a powerful medium to change minds its so refreshing to see a different perspective.



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