My "Abusive Marriage" and what I'm doing in it

☆I have seen many women who earn more than their spouses staying in an abusive marriage. 

☆I have seen women who are sole earners in a family staying in abusive relationships.

☆I have seen humble gentlemen (yes its true- not all men are evil) who stay in abusive relationships.

#Abuse is evil power personified. Why does a person feel the need to manipulate his/her partner, because they don't feel the burden of accountability on their souls?

We need to teach both; young men and women, that "marriage is a sacred institution". It is the first relation that the Creator made for human beings,  it is so sacred that its effects can be felt in the hereafter as well. #Fear of Allah is the only thing that will instill in the spouse the need to respect this sacred bond and nurture it with love. If you don't fear Allah and don't fear the pressures of accountability, the family unit will never prosper no matter how much you earn. 

What if your spouse doesn't have the fear of accountability? STEP OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP. The Almighty has given both men and women the right to step out of a marriage if you feel that the differences are irreconcilable. Use this legal right to end a relationship before it robs you of your humility and dignity.

Let's reform the society by teaching both our men and women the responsibility bestowed on them via this bond and that they must Fear Allah for all the unjust things they do particularly in this relationship called Marriage.

As a society its upon all of us to condemn all forms of abuse by holding the sanctity of marriage. It is also upon us to respect the privacy of a couple and not make #divorce a #taboo

When we don't have happy, loving, and protective homes, we see a disturbed and imbalanced society. We see depressed children and unhappy individuals. 

#Fear Allah and not misuse the responsibility given to you by Allah; for if you abuse the power given to you by the Almighty; He will surely hold you accountable for all that you have done. 

God-fearing individuals are the ones that make loving homes.

#justiceforsadafzehra

#FearAllah

#makebetterhomes

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